In The Desert Of Seth

By G. B. Marian

A Letter To Josh Duggar’s Defenders

Dear Josh Duggar sympathizers,

Here’s what I have to say about your claim that someone like Josh Duggar should be “forgiven” for what he did when he was a boy:

1: I’ve heard you argue that Josh was “just a boy” when he sexually molested his four sisters and their babysitter, but that’s no excuse. Most 14-year old boys know that sexually molesting people is wrong; they might do it anyway, but they still know that it’s wrong. In the event that they don’t understand this, they’re probably sociopaths and should be contained accordingly. Either way, Duggar’s parents are ostensibly Christian (i.e., “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” right?), so what excuse could they possibly have for not teaching him that rape is wrong?

2: I know you think that people shouldn’t attack Josh so much because it’s hurting his entire family, and not just him personally. But I contend that his father should have thought about that before he chose not to report Josh to the authorities for an entire year. I know what it’s like to call the cops on someone you love; it’s absolutely terrifying. But when there are people who are at risk because of that person and who depend on you to keep them safe, you need to grow a spine and take out the trash. I’m not saying it’s easy to call the law on your own flesh and blood; far from it. But which is more important here? Protecting a rapist to save your family’s reputation, or protecting that rapist’s victims?

3: I’ve heard you say that Josh has already confessed his sins to Jesus, and that he’s therefore been redeemed and his soul is no longer stained with this particular sin. Far be it from me to speak for the J-Man; but while that may (or may not) be good enough for Him, it’s certainly not good enough for me. For as Jesus Himself is reputed to have said, “Render unto Caesar that which is Caesar’s” (Matthew 22:21). And while Duggar might have earned Christ’s forgiveness (though I personally doubt that he has), he’s done nothing to earn Caesar’s.

4: Yes, it’s true that this case is so old now that no legal action could be taken even if all the victims did wish to press charges. But this doesn’t mean that everyone should just forget all about it. Laws can (and often should) be changed, and even when they aren’t, there are other legal and non-lethal ways of making someone like Duggar pay for his crimes – like having everybody in America talk about his crime on TV, radio, blogs, etc. It’s our Gods-given American right to bitch about what he did and to ensure that no one ever forgets that it happened, either. A court of law may not be able to touch Josh (for now at least), but that won’t save him from the court of public opinion.

5: Where were all of you people last year when those two girls stabbed their friend as an intended sacrifice to “the Slender Man?” I don’t remember hearing any of you defend minors who commit terrible crimes when that happened; in fact, I distinctly remember hearing some of you say that those girls should just be locked away in prison for the rest of their lives. Since they aren’t Christians, they can just rot in hell for all you care, right? I certainly agree that they should pay for their crime, but the message I’m getting here is that kids can technically rape and murder as much as they please so long as they find Jesus in the end. If they do, then they should be excused for their crimes; hell, we should even feel “sorry” for them when other people continue to judge them. But if they don’t find Jesus, then they deserve to be roasted alive (in a “loving Christian manner,” of course). How lovely.

6: Finally, some of you argue that since Josh’s own sisters have forgiven him for his crime, the matter is settled. But lots of abuse victims are conditioned to just accept the things that are done to them, and this is usually achieved through psychological intimidation. The Duggar girls have been taught from birth that there is only one God, that He is male, that He created men to rule over women, and that He created women to obey men. They have also been taught that if they ever refused to accept these “facts,” they would “go to hell.” Under these circumstances, it’s all too easy for males to abuse females and bully them into thinking, “I must forgive him and not tell anyone, or I’ll go to hell.” This is what we call a “culture of silence,” and such cultures tend to thrive among religious communities that are both patriarchal and fundamentalist. So you’ll have to excuse me for being skeptical of the Duggar girls; I don’t fault them (since their culture of silence prevents them from even understanding that they’ve been abused), but they are still the victims of a serious crime.

Fuck you, Josh.

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10 responses to “A Letter To Josh Duggar’s Defenders

  1. ChildofRa June 9, 2015 at 6:24 pm

    Reblogged this on Tree of Angels & Demons.

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  2. Linda Rae June 10, 2015 at 1:39 am

    Here, here! Your post is articulate, and in a way I could never express myself. Especially, your last notation. Thank you.

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  3. ubenmaat June 10, 2015 at 11:01 am

    Your final point actually has a lot of the reply I was going to give to your first point. Fundamental Christians are exceedingly patriarchal, so like you said the girls have been conditioned to accept what a boy does to them. I’m going to extend this concept a bit to your first point, in that

    “Most 14-year old boys know that sexually molesting people is wrong; they might do it anyway, but they still know that it’s wrong. In the event that they don’t understand this, they’re probably sociopaths and should be contained accordingly”

    Children only know things because their family and friends teach them. Josh Duggar’s family and friends were all fundies, so he grew up hearing from everyone he respected that girls were second class citizens, and he was superior to them. Being “just a kid” doesn’t excuse his crimes, but it should put the onus far more heavily on his parents than it is. Of course they’re defending him, because he’s their son, but why aren’t they also being made to defend themselves?

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    • G. B. Marian June 12, 2015 at 8:37 pm

      I agree; I think the father in particular has a lot more to answer for. I’m a little easier on the mother because I figure she too is a victim of the system in which she lives, and she most likely didn’t have as much power over Josh’s upbringing as Dear Old Dad did. Even still…I just can’t fathom how any parent could allow something like that to happen and not keep their other children safe from the offender.

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      • ubenmaat June 13, 2015 at 10:33 am

        I’m with you on the mother. It does seem pretty sick that a parent would let one of their own children molest their siblings without consequence.

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  4. Rev. Dragon's Eye June 10, 2015 at 4:34 pm

    The “forgiveness” is NOT complete, until the offender repairs and makes amends to those he (or she) has harmed. Too many times, have I seen the offenders (by this, I mean the actual criminals) get a pass from simply saying “Sorry”, and nothing else. I HATE the word “sorry”!

    “Sorry” is used too many times as a “get out of jail, free” card.

    “Sorry”, does not bring back murdered loved-ones!

    “Sorry”, does not undo the tragic and recurrent memories endured by an abuse victim!

    “Sorry”, does not heal and replace the loss of limbs and/or functionality of permanent disfigurement/dismemberment!

    “Sorry”, does not return someone (the victim) to wholeness by itself!

    “Sorry”, does not take the place of forethought, consideration, and good judgment, beforehand!

    “Sorry”, is NOT a true admission of guilt, nor of true contrition!

    “Sorry”, is but an excuse, begging to be excused from personal accountability!

    – Rev. Dragon’s Eye

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