June 27, 2015
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Lately, a TERF (Trans-Exclusionary Radical Feminist) has been cyberstalking transgender Pagans (or Pagans who say anything in support of transgender Pagans) on their blogs. You know, it was only a few short months ago that I first learned about the TERFs. As a matter of fact, I learned about it on a pro-TERF Pagan blog. The person running this thing was constantly posting all kinds of stuff about how transsexual women really aren’t women at all, but are evil male rapists dressing in women’s clothes so they can break into women’s public restrooms and rape cisgender women and take away all their rights. I won’t mention who this person was, and I won’t link to that blog; I don’t care to get myself involved in any flame wars today, and I unfollowed the damn thing anyway. But allow me to just say that seeing that filth posted on a Pagan website really upset me.
I have some very strong opinions on this whole subject of TERFs, but I’m not going to share most of them. I wouldn’t feel comfortable doing that, because I’m a heterosexual cisgender dude and I don’t think it’s my place to say what should or shouldn’t be done about women’s public restrooms. However, I will say that I worship a God who’s attracted to Goddesses who can kick His ass, who supports abortion, who’s also attracted to some male Deities, who’s been known to eat semen, and who even had His genitals removed at one point. (They were given back to Him later.) Now I’m no great Pagan leader, and I certainly wouldn’t want to be, so I don’t speak for all Pagans everywhere. But as a Pagan who walks with a non-heteronormative male Deity who is both feminist and LGBTQ, I find the whole TERF thing disgusting. I think you people are rotten.
I might also mention that my next door neighbor is a transgender dude, and I implicitly accept him as such. (When he transitioned, I welcomed him to the male world with a box full of briefs, some KISS albums, and a couple issues of Penthouse. He at least kept the briefs.) I don’t always know what I think about sex or gender, and I start to get all goofy and confused if I think about it for too long. But dammit, if you tell me you want me to use certain pronouns (and not certain others) when I refer to you in everyday discussion, then by Gods, that’s what I’ll do. If I did anything less, I wouldn’t be worthy of the Red Lord Seth-Typhon Almighty (praise be upon Him).
It’s great that marriage equality has finally been achieved in this great nation of ours; but let’s not forget that there are still other battles to be won. If you ask me (and I realize that nobody did), I think it’s our duty as Pagans to do whatever we can to make all our transgender friends and family feel loved, accepted and safe in this world. I don’t know what all we can do to accomplish that goal, but I suppose the best way to start is by listening to what transgender folks have to say.